I have been married to the same woman for nearly 23 years. Unfortunately, in today’s society this is no easy task nor is it common. I started hunting 10 years prior to marrying the light of my life. Hunting has always been on the top of my priorities, ALWAYS! When I said “I do”, it meant I wanted to spend the rest of my life with this woman. However, I also wanted to spend every chance I had for the rest of my life in God’s Creation doing what I love to do, Bow Hunt.
Like bow hunting, marriage is not easy. The ongoing distractions and demands of life force you to make choices. Choices such as where and with whom you are going to spend your free time with. For the majority of my married life I have chosen to spend much, if not all of my free time in the woods. Whether it be chasing turkey in the spring, whitetail deer in the fall, or shed hunting and pre-season prep in the early to late winter months, I always seemed to be somewhere other than home. My wife would pass her feelings off as a joke to folks, referring to herself as the all too familiar term “hunting widow”. Like most hunters, I would chuckle, kiss her on the forehead and head off to the woods. It wasn’t until I had my oldest boy off to college and the younger one going soon that I started thinking about my long term future. How would life be after the kids where both gone? I knew the right thing to do would be to cut down on my hunting so I could spend more time with my wife. It just wasn’t fair for me to expect her to sit at home alone while I hunted; but I wasn’t sure how would I handle this. The only passion I have is hunting! My wife knew this but also knew something had to give.
In May of 2016 my marriage hit a bump in the road caused by several factors. One of those factors was my diagnosis of PTSD (Post Traumatic Stress Disorder) which was ushered in as a result of my 25 years (and still going) in law enforcement. I had reached a breaking point, felt completely alone and was at a fork in the road. It was then that my wife came shining through. You see, my wife has never given up on me, should’ve, but hasn’t. Although I don’t deserve it, she treats me like her idol. I was heading out to start hanging stands this season when she said something I never thought I would hear. She said to me “are you going to hang a stand for me because I want to start hunting with you.” I stopped and looked at her and said “are you serious?” I could not believe she was serious but she was. I was so excited but there was one concern….. her fear of heights. Well guess what….
My woman will do whatever it takes to spend time with me. As she has always done, she put her fear and needs aside for my happiness.